I say every year around birthday time that I permit myself one post that actually relates to some aspect of my life. This is a break from my usual, ironclad rule. I think it’s incontrovertible fact that everyday people blogging about their lives is not only boring, but wildly narcissistic.
While I’m plenty boring, I lack the requisite narcissism to drone on about my uneventful life on a regular basis.
My one indulgence for 2016 is to discuss the observations I’ve amassed from over two years of immersing myself in the mildly distasteful world of online dating.
Lower your expectations. I don’t have any crazy stories. One, I’m a goody-goody (and boring—see above). Two, I’m very selective. Three, I’m actually pretty good on dates, especially first dates. I don’t get nervous, and I
don’t act weird hide my weirdness well.
All of that means that I’ve never had any dates that ended in acts of insanity or criminality by either party. They’ve almost all been C+/B- experiences. No complaints, but neither great enough nor bad enough to pass the tales down to future generations. I don’t have an unkind word to say about any of the women I’ve dated.
As such, my observations are general, not personal. I will say that a lot has changed in the last two-plus years. As a naive and (VERY) reluctant newcomer to the world of online dating, I had a lot to learn. Hell, back in 2013, I actually thought referencing an affinity for the Oxford comma in a profile summary was mildly clever. Then I saw 500 other people do it, and it became less so.
Here’s a rundown . . .